Our Rings

My husband was a flyer when we were first married, and he could wear his wedding ring all day, every day. There were few in his squadron who didn't wear theirs anymore, and it bothered him a lot.

Now, my husband is a mechanic, and he's not allowed to wear his ring. At first he got into a lot of trouble because he kept forgetting to take it off before work started. They consider it a safety hazard, but he and I both consider it much more of a hazard to not wear it whenever we can.

He didn't want to lose it, so he has started giving it to me to wear every day that he can't. Then, he comes home and asks for it back. Every time he puts it back on he smiles at me and says "I DO"...then I say "you already did" :-). So, I guess we get married again every single day! Every day is a renewal, and that's not a bad thing, some days we probably need it!

My mom, in the 17 years she and my dad have been married, has only gone without her wedding ring when it was needing repairs. It always bothered her A LOT! I guess I get my stand from her on this one.

I know the ring is just a symbol...but it was something we gave to eachother, and our marriage is important to us both. They are the outward symbol of an inward change, as someone once told me, we went from ME to WE and we want everyone to know it!

They aren't big and flashy, they are simple and that's exactly how we wanted it. My husband agonized over the ring because he thought I would want something that he couldn't afford at the time, but that's not me! I wanted one that wouldn't scratch me or him, and one that was "me". My mom and my sister helped him in that area.

He wanted one that looked like chrome. Yes, my husband has a thing for cars! And, he wanted tungston. And he loves it!

Wedding rings have become a status symbol. If they aren't "big enough" people think that you haven't gotten what you deserve. Well here's what you "deserve" in marriage....

LOVE, companionship, and teamwork!

Everything else you get is a bonus! Don't sneer at the things that your husband gives you! My favorite necklaces are not diamonds and gold...and they were from my husband! He picked them for me, and they are perfect. I wear them as often as I can because they let him know that I like them, and he feels like he accomplished his goal.

Another one of his love languages is giving me gifts :-).