The Link

I left Montana at 19 to go be a nanny in Maryland. This was the first time I had left home on my own, and it was also the farthest I had ever been. Leaving behind all of my family, and friends, and my identical twin sister.

We have shared everything; rooms, bed, clothes, shoes, and everything else. Now, we had to find our way by ourselves. Though difficult, I think it was good for us. And as luck would have it, we found both of our husbands while we were apart, and got married about 1 year apart.

I got married in 2008, and her in 2009. I moved to okieville and she moved to another place in MT.

We have paralelled eachother in almost every place in our lives, and usually only by chance. But, one thing has gotten stronger the longer we've been apart...what some refer to as the "link".

This link is joked about, and marveled at by those who have never been a twin. You have no idea how many times we were asked if we had esp. Now, I don't believe the link is any kind of esp. But, I do know that it exists. When in Maryland she knew when I was upset. Now, we have even more of a physical link...pregnancy brought this side of it out.

When I was pregnant with our first son, she was queasy during my morning sickness period. When I went into labor with him she got crampy and kept calling our mom to see if he was here yet. Then, we were both pregnant! Six weeks apart to the day, the only difference was that she was having a girl and I was having another boy. We both had our own morning sickness this time, but when she started having contractions at 35 weeks...I had my first braxton-hicks. I had a couple with our first boy, but NOTHING like this! And the day she went into labor, oh man, they were strong.

Now, both babies are here, born exactly 6 weeks apart even though she was induced. My water broke the day her baby was 6 weeks, and I had him that night.

We both nurse our babies. I did with our first too, but never had any problems. Now, I got mastitis and within 2 days she had it too. Then we both thought it was gone, and she got it again...and so did I!

1600 miles separate us, and yet we are connected. How? I don't know. But life has gone on and still does for us both. I'm sure that we will have many more stories about our "link" in the future.