Yesterday my husband and I got to go to lunch with a pastor we are friends with. He wasn't always a believer, and my husband has only been for about 3 years, so they can have good conversations when they go fishing.
We were talking about lots of things, but relationships came up because we have a mutual friend who just divorced her husband and the pastor's son is about to POP the question.
The person who got divorced once told me she and her husband just weren't "in love" anymore, and," if you don't have all the ingredients, you can't bake a cake", these were her reasons for not wanting to try to work on some things before making the permanent decision she ultimately did. These type of analogies, especially when you are trying to describe marriage, bother me. Firstly, if I don't "have all the ingredients"..I know how to substitute to make it work...and as for love..IT'S NOT A POOL! You don't just fall in and then climb back out! It's there from the start, or its not.
People can talk themselves into, or out of, anything. Analogies like, "love is a battlefield", "three strikes you're out", and countless others are dangerous, especially when you are irritated.
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