A friend of mine in Maryland called my boys this when our baby man was born. Why, because one is a blonde and the other is a brunette! But, three months later I have come to see that this is also true of their personalites.
Little man is 19 months. He is the blonde, and that's one of the only reasons he looks like me. He's my binky baby, and one in the hand and one in the mouth is how he rolls! I knew from the moment I felt him move that he was going to be a tornado as soon as he could walk, and I was right. He taught himself how to push the kitchen chair to the light switch the other day, so he could turn it off....he's brilliant too! We are only beginning and I'm already scared that he may give me a run for my money.
Baby man is the brunette. He's not the life of the party like his brother, but he can make his presence known. He's my crafty one, but he's subtle about it. I much prefer them getting used to binkies instead of thumbs, so he's had one since he was born. About a month ago he started sneaking his thumb into his mouth while he was sleeping, and now it's progressed to anytime. Out comes the binky...in goes the thumb, and then he just stares at me!
He's also my cuddler. I knew this was going to be, even before he got here. When people would poke my belly to try to get him to move, he would just sit there and not perform for them. His brother, on the other hand, wanted them to stop touching him and would beat the heck out of my stomach in response...not that a baby that size can do much other than jab with an elbow, or dance on your bladder, but it still hurts some!
Two babies, who look alike in the face, but act so different. It's certainly going to be an adventure!
Monday, March 28, 2011
Sunday, March 27, 2011
Honesty
Oh how I miss the days when honesty came easily...this would be somewhere between birth and 1st grade. For some reason first grade is the turning point for some, they turn into, for lack of a better word, liars.
I know I lied to my mother, I've had the discipline to prove it, but I try hard to not lie to people. Honesty is the best policy, haven't we all heard that?
In this time people have a hard time with honest people. They are looked upon as either rude or pushy if someone doesn't like what they say, or they are praised for faning someone's pride. I guess I have been percieved both ways, generally the rude and pushy side. My thinking is...don't ask me the question if you don't want me to answer it!
Thankfully my husband, as he puts it, is also "as subtle as a chainsaw" and doesn't critique my answers to his questions. He tells me what he thinks and I tell him what I think. If we disagree it's with love, and will be gotten over shortly.
My least favorite part of this lack of honesty epidemic is when people do something in response to your comment, and you find out that they have "erased" you from their sphere of friends. I guess it's their loss, but it still is a rotten thing to do....especially after they tell you it was ok!
I can't abide liars, now, or ever. I will teach our children to say what they mean and mean what they say. I know they will come across people who act similar to the one who "kicked me out" of their life over a misunderstanding on their part, but that will show them who their real friends are, and real friends are hard to find.
I know I lied to my mother, I've had the discipline to prove it, but I try hard to not lie to people. Honesty is the best policy, haven't we all heard that?
In this time people have a hard time with honest people. They are looked upon as either rude or pushy if someone doesn't like what they say, or they are praised for faning someone's pride. I guess I have been percieved both ways, generally the rude and pushy side. My thinking is...don't ask me the question if you don't want me to answer it!
Thankfully my husband, as he puts it, is also "as subtle as a chainsaw" and doesn't critique my answers to his questions. He tells me what he thinks and I tell him what I think. If we disagree it's with love, and will be gotten over shortly.
My least favorite part of this lack of honesty epidemic is when people do something in response to your comment, and you find out that they have "erased" you from their sphere of friends. I guess it's their loss, but it still is a rotten thing to do....especially after they tell you it was ok!
I can't abide liars, now, or ever. I will teach our children to say what they mean and mean what they say. I know they will come across people who act similar to the one who "kicked me out" of their life over a misunderstanding on their part, but that will show them who their real friends are, and real friends are hard to find.
Saturday, March 26, 2011
One Down!
So, as I have said before, owing money to people or banks has always been an issue for me. I don't enjoy being indebted to someone else, and I would hope that you are much the same. Today we got rid of some debt!!!
No, it's not anything ridiculous, it was just something that most people have. A car payment.
This car is the one that my husband bought about 3 months before we got married. He bought it because we knew we wanted to start trying to have a baby, and his other car was a 2 door that was nearly on its last legs. So, he upgraded.
we have been married 2 1/2 years, and refinanced shortly after we got married. I have to say, paying a loan off for a brand new car plus some negative equity from the previous car in that period of time is AWESOME!!!
Yes, I am excited. We put our tax money to good use, and we rewarded ourselves with breakfast after we paid it off.
What's funny is that we got in a discussion with the teller at the bank and she was shocked that we were going to pay it off so quickly....then we asked her to pull out our tithe money. Yes, we do tithe off of our taxes.
We tithe 10%, and if you would like to read about why we do you can click on the link I created for you.
She saw the amount and her eyes got really big. Then she said, "I tithe, but you tithe way more than I do". My husband explained to her our reasoning, and she seemed to agree, now wether she does or doesn't we will never know. But, I'm glad that we got to share something like this with someone!
I think that God can put you in a place you never thought you could share. We had recieved a blessing...being able to pay off the car...and we tithed. We showed her both sides of the coin. Giving with no expectation of a blessing, and how God works in helping us reach our goals.
No, it's not anything ridiculous, it was just something that most people have. A car payment.
This car is the one that my husband bought about 3 months before we got married. He bought it because we knew we wanted to start trying to have a baby, and his other car was a 2 door that was nearly on its last legs. So, he upgraded.
we have been married 2 1/2 years, and refinanced shortly after we got married. I have to say, paying a loan off for a brand new car plus some negative equity from the previous car in that period of time is AWESOME!!!
Yes, I am excited. We put our tax money to good use, and we rewarded ourselves with breakfast after we paid it off.
What's funny is that we got in a discussion with the teller at the bank and she was shocked that we were going to pay it off so quickly....then we asked her to pull out our tithe money. Yes, we do tithe off of our taxes.
We tithe 10%, and if you would like to read about why we do you can click on the link I created for you.
She saw the amount and her eyes got really big. Then she said, "I tithe, but you tithe way more than I do". My husband explained to her our reasoning, and she seemed to agree, now wether she does or doesn't we will never know. But, I'm glad that we got to share something like this with someone!
I think that God can put you in a place you never thought you could share. We had recieved a blessing...being able to pay off the car...and we tithed. We showed her both sides of the coin. Giving with no expectation of a blessing, and how God works in helping us reach our goals.
Friday, March 25, 2011
Valuable
I have heard of a lot of women recently who seem to not know how valuable they are. I don't mean they are worth money, I mean that they are WORTH more than what they settle for.
Why would you barter yourself to get what you want....they have names for that, and none are kind. Why would you allow someone to treat you as less than a person, and then still wish you were with them after they turn you out?
I spent a long time "alone" before I started dating, at least as alone as you cal be with a twin :-). I knew what I was looking for, and I knew what was going to be allowed. I also knew that if a man only valued me for things that are fleeting, like beauty or my body, that he wasn't the one that God had made for me!
They say that girls learn their value from their father. His job is to let them know they are pretty, and perfect just the way they are. And for those who have only a mom, the same can be learned from her, or even grandpa would do.
Moms, please teach your daughters to love themselves! No, I don't mean being so obsessed with yourself that you make people uncomfortable. I mean, contentment, and peace in who they are. They will choose much more wisely when they are dating if these things are in place.
Ladies, you are VALUABLE! I pray that you wait, however long it may take, and learn your own worth before you go looking for it in another's eyes. They will always see you differently than you see yourself, and sometimes their perception may be a little off.
I don't put verses from the bible here often, but this is exactly how I think we, as women, would like to be seen--Proverbs 31:10-31, THE VIRTUOUS WIFE.
Why would you barter yourself to get what you want....they have names for that, and none are kind. Why would you allow someone to treat you as less than a person, and then still wish you were with them after they turn you out?
I spent a long time "alone" before I started dating, at least as alone as you cal be with a twin :-). I knew what I was looking for, and I knew what was going to be allowed. I also knew that if a man only valued me for things that are fleeting, like beauty or my body, that he wasn't the one that God had made for me!
They say that girls learn their value from their father. His job is to let them know they are pretty, and perfect just the way they are. And for those who have only a mom, the same can be learned from her, or even grandpa would do.
Moms, please teach your daughters to love themselves! No, I don't mean being so obsessed with yourself that you make people uncomfortable. I mean, contentment, and peace in who they are. They will choose much more wisely when they are dating if these things are in place.
Ladies, you are VALUABLE! I pray that you wait, however long it may take, and learn your own worth before you go looking for it in another's eyes. They will always see you differently than you see yourself, and sometimes their perception may be a little off.
I don't put verses from the bible here often, but this is exactly how I think we, as women, would like to be seen--Proverbs 31:10-31, THE VIRTUOUS WIFE.
Thursday, March 24, 2011
Peace
With all the things we do daily, we can all agree that any moment where we get to concentrate on something other than the laundry timer, or the next feeding is truly a blessing. This is where peace lives!
In our part of the world, spring is officially here! The grass, or whatever that brown stuff that covers the ground in the fall and winter is, is turning green. The pollen is blowing in the breeze, and with it the allergens! But, as the movie made famous...OOOOKLAHOMA, where the wind comes sweeping down the plains! I was never allergic to anything until I moved here!
Our boys are growing like the weeds in our flower beds...that reminds me, I need to dig those up at some point! The weeds, not the boys :-)! And our little man has discovered every little boys' wonderland...THE PARK!!! He thinks he's much bigger than he actually is, and wants to go down the biggest slides, but that can only happen if both mommy and daddy are there. Our baby man is starting to care which person is holding him, and lo and behold, I'm his favorite! kinda makes a mom feel good!
In the middle of our blowing wind and growing boys, I am finding peace. The naps give me time to think, without the veggie tales theme song in the background. And, I am noticing things about oklahoma that I may actually come to like.
Yeah, for peace in the midst of our stormy lives! Times where concentration leads to inspiration! As evidenced by me writing this today :-).
In our part of the world, spring is officially here! The grass, or whatever that brown stuff that covers the ground in the fall and winter is, is turning green. The pollen is blowing in the breeze, and with it the allergens! But, as the movie made famous...OOOOKLAHOMA, where the wind comes sweeping down the plains! I was never allergic to anything until I moved here!
Our boys are growing like the weeds in our flower beds...that reminds me, I need to dig those up at some point! The weeds, not the boys :-)! And our little man has discovered every little boys' wonderland...THE PARK!!! He thinks he's much bigger than he actually is, and wants to go down the biggest slides, but that can only happen if both mommy and daddy are there. Our baby man is starting to care which person is holding him, and lo and behold, I'm his favorite! kinda makes a mom feel good!
In the middle of our blowing wind and growing boys, I am finding peace. The naps give me time to think, without the veggie tales theme song in the background. And, I am noticing things about oklahoma that I may actually come to like.
Yeah, for peace in the midst of our stormy lives! Times where concentration leads to inspiration! As evidenced by me writing this today :-).
Wednesday, March 23, 2011
Testing
I've discovered that the military is kind of like one never ending test. If they aren't studying for one, either mentally or physically, they are taking one!
I'm so proud of him! He took one today, and got a really good score! Now we only have one test left to go...and then there won't be another one for 6 months. That will be the longest he's gone without some kind of test for some time now.
My husband is enlisted, and is going to start working on a degree, but he's spent almost all of his first enlistment in one training or another. I don't understand how this can be, but it's just how it's worked out.
He has not deployed yet, but again, that's because of all the studying and testing he's had to do. I know that as soon as his current testing is over the airforce is going to make him "pay up", and then he's going to be deployed.
I'm praying that he gets this chance, he has been wanting to go, and things kept getting in the way. No, he doesn't want to leave me and our boys, but his thinking is that its his duty...and grudgingly I admit that he's right. It's what he signed up for, and as his wife, I hope he gets his chance soon.
I'm so proud of him! He took one today, and got a really good score! Now we only have one test left to go...and then there won't be another one for 6 months. That will be the longest he's gone without some kind of test for some time now.
My husband is enlisted, and is going to start working on a degree, but he's spent almost all of his first enlistment in one training or another. I don't understand how this can be, but it's just how it's worked out.
He has not deployed yet, but again, that's because of all the studying and testing he's had to do. I know that as soon as his current testing is over the airforce is going to make him "pay up", and then he's going to be deployed.
I'm praying that he gets this chance, he has been wanting to go, and things kept getting in the way. No, he doesn't want to leave me and our boys, but his thinking is that its his duty...and grudgingly I admit that he's right. It's what he signed up for, and as his wife, I hope he gets his chance soon.
Tuesday, March 22, 2011
Apperances are decieving
Last night I had a conversation with a friend of mine. She has broken up with her long-time boyfriend, and of course, it has really hurt her heart. She loved him...but recent events have proven that he may not have felt the same. She told me that she's studying my relationship with my husband because she see's what she was missing. It's flattering, but I wanted to make sure that she knew that appearances can be decieving.
I know I talk a lot about the great parts of my relationship with my husband, but just to let you know....our marriage isn't perfect, but it's OURS!
We argue, we make mistakes, we have hurt eachother's feelings, and sometimes it feels like we disagree a lot. We are normal, and our imperfection makes us human! What makes us an abnormal couple is that we try really hard to not let the disagreements get out of control, and overshadow the fact that our realtionship is built on a foundation a lot stronger than any argument. We believe in God, and he's what holds us together. Things that are not made together to begin with need glue to stick, right? God is our glue!
I am blessed with a husband who wants to work with me, even when I may be unreasonable. I know that is not always the case in some marriages. I believe wholehartedly that he is my match! I also believe that an arguement every now and then can strengthen your relationship...that's why "making up" was invented ;-). We get over it and we move on to the next thing.
I pray that all of you can find your "glue" in your relationships, and that making up is always your priority when things irritate you. There is never a reason to let the little things build into a big thing!
I know I talk a lot about the great parts of my relationship with my husband, but just to let you know....our marriage isn't perfect, but it's OURS!
We argue, we make mistakes, we have hurt eachother's feelings, and sometimes it feels like we disagree a lot. We are normal, and our imperfection makes us human! What makes us an abnormal couple is that we try really hard to not let the disagreements get out of control, and overshadow the fact that our realtionship is built on a foundation a lot stronger than any argument. We believe in God, and he's what holds us together. Things that are not made together to begin with need glue to stick, right? God is our glue!
I am blessed with a husband who wants to work with me, even when I may be unreasonable. I know that is not always the case in some marriages. I believe wholehartedly that he is my match! I also believe that an arguement every now and then can strengthen your relationship...that's why "making up" was invented ;-). We get over it and we move on to the next thing.
I pray that all of you can find your "glue" in your relationships, and that making up is always your priority when things irritate you. There is never a reason to let the little things build into a big thing!
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