My husband likes to hear that he's a good dad and husband. It's not for his vanity, it is because he needs me to tell him, its one of his love languages.
He helps me with dishes....I appreciate you!
He puts in the laundry, or brings the dry stuff in....I appreciate you!
He remembers something I reminded him....I appreciate you!
Notice a theme?...I appreciate him! Even when he doesn't do the things that I ask, I try to point out ANYTHING I can find that he DID do. Marriage isn't a baseball game....there is no "fair" or "foul", no 3 strikes you are out, and if you are keeping track of his batting average....then, admit it, you are looking for things to fuss about.
I have heard women say that they are carrying all the weight in their marriages, when in reality, they are missing the things that their spouse is doing because they are too busy keeping score to see the tiny home-runs! Marriage isn't 50/50, its on a sliding scale....sometimes its 95/5 or 52/48....but in the end, your effort together equals 100%, which in math land also equals 1! 1 marriage, 1 couple, 1 team...you are 1!
Marriage is a parallel to God's relationship to us, and he said that we are to forgive 70x7....its a little like 24/7, 365 days a year for the next 50+ years. Appreciate your men! Tell them every chance you get, even for the small stuff, and forgive them for the things they don't do!
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