Blame...

As I have told my husband many times since we got married...we are crap magnets! If it can go wrong, or people can take it the wrong way...they will!

We have been told that him kissing me on the cheek in church was us "making love on the pews, and we should be ashamed for teaching the teens that it's okay to act like that"...

Several members of my family, and his, have made it abundantly clear that they are very jealous and upset at our "luck" in being, not only being able to get pregnant, but getting pregnant "so often"...with comments like, " don't you know how to prevent that?", I have come to fear the initial telling people that we are going to have another one...THAT IS NOT HOW IT'S SUPPOSED TO BE!

Now,my twin is in the same boat on the pregnancy front, and the attacks keep on coming. I guess that saying that morning sickness sucks is now considered a cardinal sin, and a crime against those that we know who have fertility issues within our family. And that if she, or I 'complain' about our children not napping or talk about the things that they are doing...that it hurts these people because it's a reminder of what they will never have!

You can't blame others for things you don't have! And if you are going to talk about God in the same sentence as you tell someone that what they are making you jealous by what you percieve as a complaint about having children...then you have not just reminded them to be thankful for what they have...YOU HAVE MOVED INTO COVETING!

I'm sorry that not everyone who wants babies has them, but I WILL NOT let someone tell me...or my twin sister...that our comments about the trial of being a mother and a wife are an acceptable fuel for their hateful fires!

I love my family, but I will not apologize for being me, or for needing to vent on occasion!