Today on our bases' wives facebook page somone posted an anonymous comment. I like it that the moderator does this for people, because sometimes you need a little adivce without someone searching you out to ask you in person for more info than you are willing to give.
Her question was "is it time to throw in the towel"...yes, she used those words and she was talking about her marriage. In her post she mentioned that she and her husband had been married before to different people, and had done pre-marital counseling...Now they have a baby and her husband is not patient with him and all he wants to do is drink beer and play video games....
Yep, I couldn't help myself, I had to say something...
Ladies and gentlemen...if you have to ask if it's "time to throw in the towel"...IT'S NOT TIME!!!!! If you aren't sure wether this or that is "just too much.." then why are you asking someone else to answer your own question?
We all want validation, but when it comes to something as serious as ending your marriage the only person you should be consulting is your husband or wife! You made the vows, you live with eachother, and you supposedly meant the part about dying being the only way out of this...so act like you mean it and work through it!
I tell my husband all the time that the only way he's getting out is by dying, and that I intend to bug him incessantly for the next 50 plus years. I love him! Yes, I meant it when I said death was my only "way out", and I heard the part about better and WORSE.
Lots of the comments on this anonymous post said things like, "...life's too short to be unhappy"....do you promise your kids that they are going to be happy every minute of every day, or want to be around you all the time? Then why on earth are you telling yourself, or other people, these lies? Unhappiness is entirely perception...and as my mom kindly reminds me, "you will get glad in the same pants you got mad in"...preferably the man you love will still be sitting next to you when you do!
Before you ask or give someone advice about permantent choices...just remember that they might actually take your advice! I know that I would feel awful if someone's marriage ended because I, in essence, gave them "permission" to do so!
Hoorah for marriage!...the days we love everything about it and the days we have to remind ourselves of the things we love about it!
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