"Sticks and Stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me!" You remember saying this before, right? Well, It's not true! Words hurt more than anything. You can hit someone and they will brush it off, but if you say something its there to stay.
It's usually the ones we love the most that say the things that hurt the most. We let our bosses, coworkers, inlaws, and our children say things and they roll off...but if It's our husband we lock up! It goes straight to the heart and sits there. No amount of "I'm sorry" seems to soothe the wound, no kiss is a good enough band aid...why? Because they are supposed to protect, not hurt. Say loving things, not things they can't take back.
In a perfect world...in a perfect marriage....nobody would say hurtful things. There would be no need for little ditties about "sticks and stones."
In the time my husband and I have been married, we both have said things that hurt the other. We are not exempt from such behavior, but we have learned that God is never going to allow something that tears down walls...our marriage is meant to be! Yours are too!
A pastor friend of my husband told him that if people could push through and stay together, the thing they thought they couldn't live with, they find that they can. Does it mean something else hasn't taken its place? No. But life evolves, its always changing, and so does your relationship to your husband.
70x7...we forgive, forgive, forgive.
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