Sibling Rivalry

I am an identical twin, and have a younger sister and half brother. All of us have the same dad, and our brother has a different mom. Ages are 24, 24, 21, and 11. I get along best with my twin, and our sister tends to only talk to us when she needs something or wants to yell. Our brother was born when we were old enough to babysit, so we are learning how to relate to him as much older siblings.

I don't think there was much rivalry on my end. I never felt the need, everything I had was shared with my sister. My younger sister has always said she felt like we hated her...this is far from true! There was no competition with our brother, he was in another state.

Between us girls the tension has gotten stronger as life has moved on. I got married first, my younger sister was minorly upset it wasn't her turn....my twin got married next, and our sister was openly angry that it wasn't her turn....then she got married, and EVERYTHING was about HER! This has now carried itself into the pregnancy department, and this we have even less control over....but it never matters to her.

Our dad has shown that he favors the younger 2 of his 4 children. And this favoritism has finally become intolerable! It started as him calling our younger sister to complain about us older girls, then he came to her wedding and not ours, and now his "golden girl" is moving nearer to him, and it has started a whole new phase of stupid!

My dad's wife now says that the "closer bond" between our dad and sister is because their birthdays are 4 days apart! Boy, if we had known in utero that the way to our dad's heart was through his birthday we probably would have held out on being conceived....WE HAVE NO CONTROL OVER THAT! I think that is the dumbest reason to be closer to one of your children, and not the others, that I could possibly think of! That's even worse than the people who prefer one gender of their offspring over the other....but at least their odds are better...50/50 vs 1/365!

So, here's my thought...either love me or don't. And don't use things that I have no control over as your reasons for not caring as much for me as you do about my sister!