Intended Miracles

So, my trip to urgent care yesterday, recent comments made to me from other spouses, and things I read today on the news channel Facebook page have made it very clear that I need to say something...

Having more than two children is NOT a crime in our country! Everyone who has more than that number is NOT on welfare! Just because those of us who want more than that magical number of children have them doesn't make them any less wanted or loved!

In the last two days I have had a medical doctor ask me if I intended to get pregnant as often as I have...from what he learned from his precious medical books, the answer is yes, because we didn't do anything to "prevent" them from happening. From my standpoint I say that they were intended miracles! I have also had some military spouses react as if I should be commited to the psych ward because our first two are 16mo apart and our second and third will be 15mo apart....I have to say that the spacing is over 9mo apart so most of the nae-sayers should be pleased with me.

I have several friends and family who have not been blessed with their own children yet. Reasons are all different, but I would imagine that just one "intended miracle" would give them so much joy. One of my friends actually wanted 4, and now she says,"if I could have just one I would be happy." I'm not bragging, I'm just making a point that we will all be given the children we are meant to have. Either from our own bodies or from someone who felt that child belonged with you from the start. Both outcomes come from God's own hand, and in his time!

When we started trying to have our family, my husband and I knew that our plan may not be what was intended for us, and we may never have more than what we do right now. So, I would encourage you to look past this "2 kids is normal" mentality and just say, "they have the number they were meant to have." And, if you can't be nice, choose to say nothing. Nothing hurts a child more than to read or overhear someone asking if they were wanted when you became pregnant with them, and believe me they are listening!

So, I will continue on our journey through parenthood. I will have no more children than God intends for me to have, and no less. All of our children will be loved and cared for. I don't care how tired I am, or if someone can't understand how I "got into this mess". I won't ask your permission, and I'm certain you wouldn't ask mine, but if you have a baby I will be happy for you...you have an INTENDED MIRACLE, as I believe all babies are!