Herbal Deodorant

Deodorant. Are you a Secret, Dove, Degree, or Ban person? Regular or Clinical strength? Spray on, roll on, stick or creme in a tube? So many options for something that most of us never think twice about, unless we smell funky.

Me, pregnancy did something to either my nose or my glands, I can sweat through clinical strength Deodorant in a matter of hours!

Sorry if that's TMI, but I am sure that I'm not alone. And, I have found a solution. I made some myself!

There are lots of different "natural" options that still don't work. And still contain things that can irritate skin or have yet to be linked to some disease or another. But, my Herbal recipe has none of those problems!

Shea butter....to firm it up without beeswax.

Coconut oil...antibacterial, moisturising, and it thins the mix just enough.

Bentonite Clay powder...this is a purifying agent, and helps keep you a little drier.

Baking soda....to absorb smell. Can substitute corn starch or arrowroot powder if you have a sensitivity.

30 drops of your favorite essential oil, or mixture of them...I used lavender because I had it on hand.

Melt it and then whip it! I have been applying just a finger full in the morning, and not needing any more than that all day!

Next time I will put it into a Deodorant container of some kind so that I can apply it without having to dig a finger full out of my container.

I haven't had any problem with the clay showing on my skin, or the shea butter or coconut oil ruining my clothes.

If you have ever thought of making your own toiletries, go for it! You may like yours better than anything else you could find.

Fishing with Daddy

There is nothing like taking a 3, 2, and 1 year old fishing!

My husband has been waiting for this day from the moment he heard "it's a boy!".

His favorite outdoor activity, and one he wishes his father had enjoyed, or sometimes tolerated, so they could spend time together. So, he is on his way to being that daddy now.

Momma packed a cold dinner of cheesey bread, pizza hummus, carrots, and fruit...daddy got the tackle ready.

...while earlier in the day mommy had picked up the casting net for the first time in her life, and after watching one YouTube tutorial, she completely OWNED it! Daddy has been trying to do it for over a year, and mommy helped him (I have permission from him to boast on my skills, haha). But, back to our sunset fishing picnic...

Load the tackle, check.
Load the kids, check.
Load the food, check.
Hit the road, check.

Our firecracker spent his time throwing things into the water like daddy with the net...and so did mister sassy-pants. Pepper girl and mommy watched and ate our dinner. The boys were biz-ay! So, pepper ate all the kiwi...

My husband learned just how long rocks can hold the attention of young boys, and that they didn't care if they caught anything or even got a bite. This was about quality time.

An outing together, a first together. Not a long trip, but just right for where our kids are right now.

Happy Easter, Christ is Risen!

Everyone has the right to be miserable?

I keep seeing this as a comment on peoples reposts of the marriage equality pictures, and frankly if they believe marriage equals misery I am not sure why anyone would want to be married in the first place.

My cousin and I had a little discussion about our views on this subject. Mine do differ from hers in many ways, but that is why we are having this discussion all over the country...because people believe differently.

There are those who see this as an issue of Tolerance. Those who see this as an issue of civil rights, similar to the black movement in the 60's with integration. Those who see it as a biblical issue, and those who merely see it as a moral issue no religion guiding their ideal.

Here's my thoughts on these reasons...please note I said THOUGHTS

It is not about tolerance or intolerance. It is about choice.

It is not about dictating who you can love, or how to love them.

It is not about rights in the way integration was, I believe they just want legal validation, for legal purposes.

It is a biblical issue for me because I am a Christian. The bible is clear on marriage and lifestyle choices. And before I get grumped at for passing Judgement, I suggest you read the bible first on each issue. It is there.

It is a moral issue...religion aside. There are some serious health risks to this lifestyle. Our bodies have physical limitations.

Do I hate those whose lifestyle differ from mine? No.

Do I want them to be happy? Yes.

Do I think that legalizing marriage is the root of their unhappiness? No.

I feel that my marriage is a covenant. Designed by God specifically for a man and a woman. And, I feel that this bill passing will turn it into nothing more than a civil union, a LEGALITY, and I really don't appreciate that. It cheapens it, and makes it about law and not about a covenant.

I pray for this nation, though I know in my heart what the decision is to be, that they will see what they are doing.

I love my friends and family who are LGTB, so take this as my own thoughts and not the hate-mongering that it has been portrayed as by a bunch of angry people. We don't all have to believe the same way, we just need to do so in a way that is kind.

It's not about you

Being a person who has never been accused of keeping my mouth shut, I would like to share a simple public service announcement....

IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU!

Your husband forgot to take the garbage out...he was in a hurry this morning(I have to tell myself this a lot).

That person who cut you off on your way to work had somewhere to be too...they were not just looking for you.

The person posting about their religion, or lack of faith, on their Facebook page...it's not just to get under your skin.

Your child spilled their food and drink at every meal today...don't worry they will do it again tomorrow because they are kids and not as coordinated as you. Obviously you have used your limbs a lot longer.

Sometimes we have to stop and tell ourselves this simple truth. A truth lost in a world of offended people waiting to find something to be offended about. A world of people looking for someone to blame. Don't look for all the reasons that you could be inconvenienced or annoyed, you will end up being a very grumpy person who has no friends.

Join me....IT'S NOT ABOUT ME! Feel better? It may take several times of telling yourself that, but eventually it will actually make you feel freer.

Imagine waking up and looking at peoples actions as their own. We can do it!

See my post over at Proverbs 31 Thursday link up

Daddy Goggles

Yesterday my husband made a very big decision. He got rid of his PS3, his controllers, and ALL of his games! Let me tell you, game systems are very important to a lot of men. My husband used to be one of them.

When we were dating, I don't recall a night we talked that he wasn't playing a game. Once we got married he called it his best friend. We were going to have our first baby and he called it his "baby". See how much he valued it?

I told him yesterday, because he asked, that I was shocked and pleased that it is now gone. I was jealous of it sometimes. In some ways he treated it with more care and consideration than me or the children.

His reason for for such a change of heart, and the eviction of his former prized possession? He was seeing it through his daddy goggles. Yes, I was confused at first too.

He looked at how he felt about gaming in his younger days, and how it had affected his life. He looked at how it had affected his adult life. He looked at how it was affecting our family life, and his conclusion was that he didn't like what he saw.

No, he didn't spend all his time on it. But, we watched netflix on it, and there were shows that he had introduced our boys to that had become a problem.

He had noticed an attitude shift in our oldest that was alarmingly similar to the characters he was watching. We tried hiding the remotes and leaving it off...he found them. We tried watching something else and then he would throw very naughty fits.

Discipline him is what you are probably thinking...we did, and did, and did. Sometimes the best discipline is to take it away completely, even if it inconveniences you.

This part of our life is NOT all about us. We have to put on our goggles, like my husband, and see what the root of the problem is. Then, our job is to be parents and fix it if we can.

Our new family time will revolve around games and true togetherness instead of fighting over what to watch, or my husband playing games late because he is trying to do it while I'm asleep next to him on the couch so that it doesn't take his time from me....but it still did. He would wake up late, grumpy, and not get to spend the time he had with us before working that night.

Is there something in your life you need to put your goggles on and re-examine? Does it effect your children it your attitude? Does it steal your time? Does it cause you to argue with your spouse? If you can say yes to any of these questions, then I would encourage you to imagine a life if it weren't there. Maybe not forever...but for right now.

What’s your biggest worry right now as a military wife? How do you deal with it?

My biggest worry right now is that my husband is going to be kicked out soon, and that we won't know what kind of healthcare we will have for our babies or ourselves.

It's been nice being able to say that we have medical insurance when the need arises. With three toddlers and my very graceful husband it has been a God send. But, that will all end as soon as my husband is discharged because he didn't get a chance to fulfill his 20 years.

I guess I should be grateful that we have had three zero balance births, and all of the bells and whistles that accompany it. I have even been to see specialists for my feet and my Hashimoto's disease...again zero balance.

With things going the way they are for the military. Budget cuts leading to the cancelling of PCSs, Tuition assistance being cut, and looming fulough for some. I should be content that my husband and our family will not longer need to be scared that all of our benefits will be cut. We now have to search out what is best for us.

It's scary to think that our whole world is going to shift. No more Base, no more ABUs, no more combat boots, no more military IDs. But, we will make it work. And we are starting to see that maybe this is where we have been led all along.

How do I deal with it? There really isn't much to deal with. The decision had nothing to do with me, and my husband couldn't stop it either. When neither of you are to blame, you just do what you need to do. You move on, and you learn to live with the changes.

Is life too short to be unhappy?

"Life is too short to be unhappy." Said, by hundreds of people, usually in response to some grumblings about peoples significant others, or spouses. These same people fall into two categories, the ones who really believe what they are saying and the ones who have bought what the former are selling in regards to romantic relationships. The second type of people think that the list of things that relationships can't, shouldn't or couldn't bounce back from are a byproduct of unhappiness. This would mean that relationships like these are disposable, only to be entered into in a euphoric state, and to be discarded the first time it is no longer fun and has become work.

We don't teach our children such things about relationship. The teenager who "hates" his parents doesn't get the option to throw his relationship to them away. He is made to stay the course, and essentially get over it. We tell him that this bond is some how stronger than even that of his parents. We have now shown him that marriage is not meant to last, only parenthood.

Disposable, makes you think of plastic bags, paper, moldy food, broken things in general. But, then there are the things that we give away because we don't like or need them anymore. I would like to think that we see our romantic relationships as more than moldy food or a good will donation.

 

Let me tell you a little secret....There will be things in marriage that make you unhappy. There will be moments where keeping your mouth shut and leaving the room is the best move you could make. But marriage is not about happiness. Re-read your vows. Nowhere does is say happiness is promised, or even integral to marriage. Marriage is about covenant. A vow. A partnership. A promise that no matter what you will pull yourselves up by your bootstraps and work towards restoration every single day.

 

Happiness comes when you marry the one you love. If love leaves every time you are unhappy, you need to change your mind because you are letting it lead your heart. It should be your heart leading your mind.

 

Resolve to be happy IN your marriage, not BECAUSE of it! It's what is inside that counts, everything else is just window dressing.